Plain English for Parents
Who owns what goes up on Freaky Rivet?
We put up things on this site. Your kids (hopefully) will put up things on this site. With a bit of optimism, we're hoping YOU will put things up on this site.We have a simple rule. We assume that whoever puts something up on this site is its owner, and we treat it that way. So we won't own your or your child's content, and you won't own ours.
By signing up for Freaky Rivet, though, you are allowing us to use that content. It will still be yours. For example, it will be visible to other paying members like yourselves. And we might use it to show other people the kinds of things the Freaky Rivet community does to help them decide whether to join us or not. Other important things to note here are that:
- We don't name people within the site. So although you own your stuff, other people won't know who YOU are. It's still yours, and they will know it belongs to someone who isn't them, but they won't have your name. This is for security.
- In the same way, anything you see here that you didn't make yourself belongs to someone else. So you can't go copying it somewhere else. That's regardless of whether it's ours, or another parent or child's.
- You can remove all or any of your stuff any time. It's yours.
This is a site for kids, though we allow parents on it to add to the fun and activities. Please be nice. Nice means a few things to us.
Be supportive. Don't undermine someone else's contribution. Everyone is (or should be) here to do more things with their lives, and we think that's a good thing and should be encouraged. If you're going to make suggestions (say you think someone could kick a ball a lot further by kicking with the side of their foot rather than toe-punting it), then do it as a suggestion and nicely.
NOT ACCEPTABLE: "Your kicking sucks. My grandmother could do better than that, and she has a wooden leg. And died 40 years ago."
ACCEPTABLE: "Nice kick. I'm a football coach, and I teach my kids to kick with the inside of their foot - the ball goes so much further, and they can avoid hitting windows because they control it more."
No swearing or child-inappropriate language. This one goes without saying.
NOT ACCEPTABLE: Pretty much every word that's just come to mind! You know what we mean.
ACCEPTABLE: All the words that aren't in the previous category!
No bullying. We're not even going to joke about this one. We'll have zero tolerance to bullying behaviour that we see on the site. It's destructive, nasty and doesn't belong here. Or anywhere else for that matter.
Just be nice. You know what that means!
Don't let your kids put up anything indecent.
We think a big part of motivating kids to do these activities, and of getting them to motivate each other, is to encourage them to upload videos and pictures of them doing the activities. My phone gets absolutely full of videos of my son doing domino-toppling activities. He loves doing them, and wants to share it with all his friends. I don't have a problem with that - it motivates him to do stuff.
But as much as we are encouraging this, we also need our kids to be clear about the boundaries of what they can and can't video or take photos of.
So this one goes without saying, but we'll say it anyway. Don't let your kids put up anything inappropriate. That especially means anything with their or other kids’ (or adults’) inappropriate nakedness, or lewd or suggestive behaviour. We make our best efforts to monitor for this, and will let you know if we see it happening, but it's down to you as parents to make sure that your kids understand that this is not acceptable, and that we will end their membership of Freaky Rivet if they do it.
Don't tell people who you are.
More importantly, ensure your kids don't give up any information that allows anyone to identify them. If we see something that identifies them, we'll remove it. But we're only going to be checking this as humans, and won't guarantee to catch everything. Far better to talk to them and teach them not to do it. That will do them good in any site they use, not just this one.
- Don't let them use their real name. They can't do this in naming their Rivetar, but make sure they know not to put it in any comments, videos, photos or anything else.
- Don't let them put in their address. There's no need.
- Don't let them put in their school or the name of any particular clubs they belong to. So they can say that they go to an after school chess club, but not that they go to the Purple Knight Primary Chess Club in Torbay. Not that we have anything against this club - it's great. But we don't want anyone going there waiting for your kids who isn't you.
- and so on...
Similarly, don't let them use anyone else's details or names. We don't want any comments from your daughter saying, "Sunshine Brightly Rivet did this pond dipping activity with her best friend, Avril Lawrence of 24 Chester Close, Nottingham."
What we use your information for.
Although we don't want the kids to give any information that might identify them, we will be asking YOU the parent for some information about them: their name, their gender, their date of birth and their school. In addition, we'll attach the town and country you live in to their record.
This is so that we can try to keep things appropriate to them. For example, we may be segmenting activities by age, but also need to make sure you’re aware when your kids are older than we designed the site for - they might then want to go on Facebook, because as we all know (ahem), no child breaks Facebook's minimum age rule of 13. Also, we may in future hook up with places for activities (e.g. museums, sports clubs, etc), and if we do, we will allow you the option to see ones that are close to you.
We also take the state or country information as we allow them to see their rivet rankings within a country or a state. Though the rankings will obviously use their Rivetar's name, not their real one.
We're also talking to a number of schools about how we might be able to help them support getting kids active, as well as potentially donating to them for students that Join Freaky Rivet who go to the school in question. That's why we ask for your child's school.
Finally, if we need to communicate with YOU about your child, we will be using their name so you know who we’re talking about, and because, to be blunt, you’re more likely to read it if it has your child’s name in it. And if something important has happened that we think you should know about (good or bad), we want you to read it! This is more relevant if you have more than one child registered with us.
You allow your kids to participate.
You can only join the site if you are explicitly agreeing for your kids to participate. That means that you're giving them permission to upload activities they create or do using words, pics and videos (in which they will usually include themselves). It also means you're giving us permission to host and display those photos and videos on our site to other paying members.
Emphasis is on 'paying' members, as that means we can identify who they are in real life if we need to by getting the authorities to contact the banks and get their details through their credit cards.
Be careful with links out.
We're not the only ones with great stuff to do on the Internet. When we find something we think you or your kids might be interested in, we may provide a link to it. Usually, that would be to a video or a blog site which has some interesting content. In addition, we’ve reached out to moms, dads, teachers and other specialists for kids activities to include on our site, and out of courtesy, we link to their sites. We're not doing it for cash (unless we explicitly say so), but because we think you might find it interesting.
Bear in mind that those aren't our sites (unless we say they are), and we have no control over what's on them or how they collect or use data on people who visit their site. So just be open to that when you or your kids follow those links.
If you find any that for some reason seem inappropriate, please email us to let us know, and we'll look into it.
The Freaky Rivet Parents blog is for...
A big part of what we're doing and how we're doing it is to be tongue-in-cheek with everyone, and that includes parents. Although our mission is deadly serious, we believe it can be achieved with humour.
Obviously, we have our own quirky sense of humour, which we hope at least some of you will like! We stay away from profanity (and “gosh” that's tough at times), but our parent blog posts are aimed more at parents than at your kids. So try to keep them that way!
Clubs can be so much more fun if the whole family is involved, and that’s a big reason why we have the parents’ blog.
Use common sense with what's on the site.
We've put together Freaky Rivet to try to get kids moving, doing stuff, and broadening their interests. We've done our best to make everything here safe, including putting safety tips. That said, if you put your mind to it, you could probably do someone harm with a feather duster. Meaning that the best way for our activities to be safe is for you to use your common sense, and to help your kids also develop their own common sense. So if anyone's hurt doing any of our activities (which is pretty unlikely), we can't be responsible for that.
A condition of your using this site is that you take responsibility to make sure your kids use it sensibly, and don't hold us responsible for that or any consequences at all of using our site.
As for content that you or other members may post on the site, although we will make our best efforts to ensure that they are also safe and fun, we still expect you and your kids to apply common sense when using them. Your use of the site is also on the condition that you accept this, and that you don't hold us responsible for any consequences of following any of the activities or comments that other members make.
And with what you put up on the site.
If you upload activities to our site, we're really hoping that other families will try them out. A big part of our taking a club approach is to try to get families and kids sharing great activities that they've discovered.
We'd ask you to be sensitive and careful with the activities you post, though. Please don't suggest any dangerous activities, or ones that are insulting or disrespectful. As a condition of using our site, you won't hold us responsible if another child tries one of your activities and in some way has an accident with it.
Similarly, be careful with using the activities on the site. It goes both ways - apply common sense with what you put up on Freaky Rivet, and also what you decide to do from the site.
We do our best to keep the site up.
We hope you'll love our stuff. But we learned from an early age that trying to please everyone all of the time would make us lose our hair and get fat. So we don't try to do that, as we're already too bald and fat. In case you want to cancel, then these are our terms for doing that.
If you just don't like Freaky Rivet, then that's OK. Go ahead and cancel your membership using our cancellation page. You will remain a member until the end of the period you've paid for, and then we'll bid you a sad farewell, not charge you any more, and stop your access to the site. Although we hope it never comes to it, we don't offer a refund.
Note that we keep any activities or shots you or your family have created on the site so that they can still be done by other kids. This is because we would like to have the broadest range of activities available for kids online. But we won’t keep any data that could identify you or your kids aside from the videos or photos themselves. If you don’t want us to keep your activities and shots after you cancel, just drop us an email and we’ll delete them, but we would love you to leave them as a legacy to future members of the club.
For other downloadable products, such as our itineraries, we're sad to say that we can't refund your payment unless for some reason you've been unable to download them. In that case, and if we can't get them to you by other means, we will aim to refund you using the same mechanism you used to pay us. So if you paid with PayPal, we'll refund to PayPal. If you used Visa, we'll try to refund the same card you paid with. If we can't do this for some technical reason or because of an account change, we'll contact you straight away to see what alternative arrangements to repay you can be made.
There are some circumstances in which we might cancel a membership. These include if you or your children do things that are against our teas and seas, or if we go out of business, or if someone else buys us and decides they want to do something else. There may well be other reasons too that don't spring to mind right now. If we have to cancel because of something we've done (like someone buying us), we'll do our best to refund you.
- We're only going to ask you for information when we need it. That means your name, an email address, username (which can be a wild figment of your outermost imagination), a password (which we won't see), a post code (zip code) and a region, state or country for using the site. For child members of Freaky Rivet, we'll be asking you for their birth date, gender and school as well. If you want to see why we ask you for this, see "What we use your information for" above.
- It also means credit card and payment details when you're paying us. We won't keep hold of your payment information, and it is used just by our payment providers. They've got much more secure vaults than us (probably with big guns and ugly people at the door). The info is used for two purposes only - to process payments, and in case we need to identify law-breakers. And nothing else.
- What little information we have we won't give to anyone else. We know we're nice, but we can't guarantee that about anyone else, so we won't give them your information. Actually my mother's very nice, but we won't give her your information either.
Getting in touch.
- Through our website (our favourite way). Go to our Contact Us page;
- By mail (think of the trees). Write to Freaky Rivet, 145-157 St. John Street, London EC1V 4PW,UK.
- By email. Send it to support @ freakyrivet . com. Sorry for the annoying spaces - they're just there to stop annoying bots from spamming us. Just delete them before sending the email.
There aren't many rules. But there are some!
Follow the law!
Rivetars are sensitive. It doesn't take much to make them feel really bad. So please be nice to all Rivetars in Freaky Rivet. That means a few things.
Support each other. Don't tell anyone they're really bad at something - if you think you can help them do better, then suggest how. Nicely.
Don't swear. Your parents and teachers don't want you to. And nor do we or the Rivetars here.
No bullying. We really, really, really don't like bullying. Nobody likes being bullied. Some of our Rivetars are much bigger than the others, and they don't bully. So nor should you.
Just be nice. You know what that means!
Don't put up stuff that belongs to someone else.
Don't put up stuff you wouldn't like your parents or teachers to see.
We want you to put up videos and pictures of you doing these activities. That's a big part of the fun of Freaky Rivet. But don't put anything up that you wouldn't be happy for your teachers or your parents to see. Actually, don't EVER make videos or take pictures of stuff you wouldn't want your parents or teachers to see. And if you see anything that other Rivetars have put up on the site that you don’t think they should have, please let us by clicking the alert button next to it, or letting your parents know.
The biggest example is of you or anyone doing ANYTHING with their private parts visible. That's not cool, we don't want it, we will cancel your membership STRAIGHT AWAY, and we might even tell the police. So just DON'T DO IT.
There are a lot of CAPITAL letters in this rule. That's because it's REALLY important.
Don't let anyone know who you are.
You're going to have a Rivetar on Freaky Rivet, and it will have its own name. You can choose how your Rivetar looks. Don't let the Rivetar give away anything about you in the real world. So...
Don't use your real name or anything that's made up from your real name.
Don't talk about where you live or go to school or a club you go to in the real world.
Pretend there's a detective trying to figure out who you are. Don't say things that the detective would be able to use to figure out who you are or where you live.
Be careful when you follow a link away from our site.
Use your common sense.
Common sense. What is it? It means being sensible with what you do. You can definitely have fun while still being sensible, and that's what we'd like you to do as members of Freaky Rivet. So whenever you want to do or create an activity, follow the safety notes we've put up there. Then also add your own!
For example, if we have an activity which has nuts in it, and you have a nut allergy, don't do that activity - there are plenty of others! If you have younger brothers and sisters who want to do something with you from the site, make sure it's something that someone their age can do. Ask your parents. We've made this club for YOU, and younger kids might not be able to do a lot of the things here.
Those are just examples. Just make sure you think things through before you do them. (Have you learned about alliteration yet? THink THings THrough. THat's THe greatest example of one!)